My Message

More about me. About my companies. My marriage, my kids, my life & a few more hopes & dreams. How I’m doing it and what I’m learning from it.

Once, in a dream, God gave me a vision of an enclosed, single path I was walking. A large backpack along with bags I carried, began to hinder me from fitting though what was becoming a narrowing cavity. Just as I would struggle for a few steps and make it further, the walls of this path would tighten around me. If I were to go any further, I just couldn’t fit as is. So, the bags, that backpack? They needed to go if I was to walk on...

It became clear to me what God was speaking for my life. There was far too much I carry to get to where I need (and maybe desire) to go. I have to find a way to lose this extra baggage which hindered my walk to my destination.

When I shed much of this baggage, a process which took years, I am surprised at the freedom I begin to feel. I am surprised at how much room there is in my mind to do more and go further than I ever imagined. And I don’t stop at the emotional and spiritual. I take this concept into the physical realm and strip from my life unnecessary items and products which hide away in my closets and drawers. I am far from a pack-rat and it still takes years to clean out my life physically. But, again, this leaves space for God to bring the new and the fresh into my physical life.

Recently, this concept is re-introduced to me on a trip my husband and I were on together. A month prior to the trip, I think I am smart by beginning to plan my luggage strategy and count out days and nights and events, bringing only what I know I’ll need and wear, which I did mostly wear what I had but, the large suitcases were so cumbersome and annoying to me, I felt again what it is like to have “baggage.”

When I arrived home, I again went through my closets and drawers and shed as much as possible and vowed to always travel much lighter, too! (This is what ended up being 6 bags of stuff from what I thought was an already cleaned out closet, not!)

The moral of this is, which is such a big one for me, surrounding yourself and carrying and allowing to pile up too much stuff, is so beyond hindering to your life that you become so paralyzed you never move. You know people you run into 20 years later and they are the same? Too much stuff. Can’t move.

I hope you grasp how wonderful it is when you make the effort to clean out your house and your mind. The fresh and the new will flow to you, it has to. As with light, the light travels quickly to open, ready spaces. But with spaces filled and cluttered, the light struggles to get through and dark spaces are left and shadows are many.

Leaving the stuff around, emotionally and spiritually and physically, only hinders growth and slows your walk.

One life. And we need nothing but what immediately surrounds us. There is so much more to learn. I can’t wait for God to teach me more secrets to improving my life, my one life. (Because of my mom’s cancer and the multiple females in my dad’s family who have acquired the rare ovarian cancer, I am focusing on which foods are cancer feeders and which are cancer blockers. I am in the process of cutting out the majority of meat that I eat from, and adding way more vegetables to, my diet.)

About Hopes And Dreams
I believe God plants them inside of us, do you? And with the intention of both filling and fulfilling them. If you believe that, too, then you won’t be shy about what you want in your life or want the wrong things.

You have in your life what you have asked for, you see what you are asking for, and you will see and have what you are dreaming for.

I don’t believe you will always receive your dreams and hopes automatically. Only with correct thinking and execution. I do hope to find a way to share more of this process of thinking and execution with you someday =)

I dream of days filled with time and beauty and creation and production. This burns of desire in my heart. I dream of peace and long days. It might be an age thing, and probably is, but the passion of my twenties and early thirties has really transformed into something a bit more quiet and calm now that I am 40. I am very aware of limited time and futility when it comes to so much of what we do. I want to be careful now with what I spend my time on because why do what doesn’t count? I am extremely thankful for all God has taught me to transform and improve my life up to this point and I do hope I can share these processes with you, too!

My Kids
I have one adult daughter with her own son, 2 teenagers in high school and a young son, 1st grade. I’ll be pleased to one day push from the nest my very impressive contribution to the world! I’m teasing, my children are such wonderful people and I am so proud of each and every one!

My Marriage
How fortunate am I to have such a man in my life? I don’t think I asked or envisioned or anything but it seems more as if he is a special gift. Like, we may not know exactly what we want or need but, our Father knows. And our Father gives gifts. And my husband is my gift. We were married in 2005 and I look forward to growing old with him. I wouldn’t have come so far without his hands, and heart, to help me.

My Companies
These are another surprise to me. Again, I didn’t envision them, which I think may cause so much struggle for me but, I believe they were born of necessity and also gifted to me from my Father.

The issues of a start-up business continue to overwhelm me but I draw strength from my friendship with God and, with that, I am able to continue to develop this great product I created from scratch which allows me to “look well to the ways of my household.” This means it allows us to eat and pay the bills =)

One thing which stands out in my hair extension companies, and through the years of developing my product, are the ups and downs and how much I’ve truly needed God’s help in everything I do and then how nice He is to help me like He does.

For example, one day, I get a comment in my email from a girl who doesn’t think I should sell my products in a kit. She says, “I have all these tools already, specifically, each and every one of them. They are not special or interesting to me or to the general public. Let's not insult each others intelligence by pretending that they are.”

I sent her a coupon and she continues with sarcasm over the items in my hair extension kit, “Thank you for the discount, now I am sold, I really needed the Carry bag - lol...”

And don’t think this isn’t very hard for me, I really want to please my potential customers but we have guidelines and reasons for what I do with the company policies.

So, the next day, I go into the feedback area to download new reviews and submissions. One of my recent customers has this to say about her kit, “I felt like it was put together with such love and care... sounds cheesy I know, but you just don't see that in today's market. Everything is so half-assed done, the packaging and products are usually done the cheapest way possible and it loses quality.”

And, of course you could think, well, that’s not anything special, different people have differing opinions, but, there’s more! The customer/reviewer goes on to say, “Everything you need is in it and you have gone the extra mile with the brush, tools, melting pot. It was wonderful! I love that you can store it all right there in the drawstring bag!” **me: big, big smile =)**

The thing I learned early was how to listen to God’s voice. How He speaks to us in many different ways. And how to test the messages for surety. I learned how to correct mistakes through prayer and how to turn my extreme fear into faith. I have a very special way of praying which, I believe, brings results.

You can pray, too, and God will hear you and help you. (Just don’t stop. I prayed for a very, very long time before God showed me things.)

My Future
I can visualize it and it’s really great =) I’ve started expanding my concept of cleaning out my mind and my closet to my whole life and how this means only eating and wearing that which I love and only surrounding myself with those who I love and who pass around love.

When I started writing Tiffany Twisted, I remembered how God told me I would be an author. I was 9 when He planted that in my heart and didn’t even really know what that was. But I do love to write stuff. I love words and concepts. I hope I write more =)

Recently, I was reminded of a conversation (of which I have no recollection) with my oldest daughter’s father, who, when breaking up, told me I would be nothing more than a alcoholic mother of 8 kids livin’ in a trailer somewhere! (I was about nineteen.) I guess I put my hand on my hip and told him it wasn’t so, that I would be successful with my own line of hair products like Paul Mitchell. I find this fascinating. So, maybe it just had to happen then, the hair extensions. (...half that many kids, no trailer, not much for drinking, whew!)

So, books and hair =) and that narrowing path I am on. I’m not quite sure what will happen next. I just know this isn’t it. I appreciate not knowing the plan, though. Like having a secret mission in life that can’t be shared until it is time to execute.

One day (and this was long after my books were published and my product established) as we were standing and chatting in her garage, my BFF told me of a dream she had. She said, in her dream, we asked God if we could do something really great with our lives. She thought we should ask in real life, too, like speak it out loud.

So, in that very moment, she began to pray out loud and ask this of God. Immediately the power and presence of the Lord fell so hard and fast and strong in that place that we were both fantastically overcome by it. It was like a thick cloud of something-you-would-never-imagine and, this, in her garage! It was a beautiful thing. An amazing and beautiful thing I hope to tell you more about later.

Right now, I am working on 2 new e-books and I’m really excited about them. I have enhanced Tiffany Twisted and Some Dance, so the ebook versions include notes, updates and photos. Those are available on Amazon for Kindle and iPad. Hoping to have my new books finished late-summer. I am creating a business memoir plus putting together my inspirational title, TRUE. Be sure you friend request my Facebook page or like my Tiffany Twist Books page for updates there so I can let you know more just as soon as I know more =) It’s really exciting stuff, I promise!

But, for now...best wishes and many blessings to you from me!

And thank you so much for letting me share! XXOO